How do women cope with the menopause at work

Dont’ let it get the better of you.

“I am coming out, and have nothing to be ashamed of! I am stepping out onto the stage of life and shouting it loud and clear, “I am a menopausal women and I am proud of it!” I Am a MENOPAUSAL WOMAN… who restored her body and got her ‘mojo’ back, in its entirety. I got it all back and I can cope with anything. Yes, you heard right, ‘There ain’t no stopping me now’.”

Why is it that we feel we have to hide this fact? Maybe it’s because we don’t feel as good about ourselves as we used to, we are less confident, maybe because most people believe the definition of menopause is the end, old, finished – not so!

Maybe it is because we are less able to cope, and no one should know this. That’s a big one! I am so desperately sad when I hear from women who say they can’t cope, that they can’t keep up with their male counterparts, or younger colleagues.

“How do professional women cope with the menopause? How do women manage their high-flying career when they are suddenly hit with hot flushes, foggy thinking and/or mood swings, together will sleeping disorders?”

This is the question I am constantly asked. This is the question I am going to answer for you!

Hot flushes

What do you do if you are sitting in a meeting with a table full of men and suddenly a hot flush hits you? Do you perspire and suffer in agitated in silence, getting redder and redder, or do you excuse yourself telling your colleagues that nature has just presented you with something that is known as a ‘hot flush’ and you just need to step out and cool down a little.

No way. You hide it, you sit there and perspire, fidgeting in your seat. There’s no need for them to know that you are menopausal, that would just start the ball rolling. We do not have to suffer these embarrassing moments anymore, there is a solution. A safe solution.

Foggy thinking

What if you have to present that all important project that you’ve been working so hard on, and for so long, when you can’t remember your words. Not good when you need a high degree of intellectual control. This is a normal perimenopausal process, but needn’t be so debilitating .

We have a hormonal imbalance and our brain is rewiring. Who wants to lose their thinking power at 40 or 50. Who wants to let go of their experienced, efficient, sophisticate and more mature brain? We are at our peak, we are at the top of our career, why let go? We do not have to, there is a solution, a safe solution!

Emotions

What if you are suddenly overcome with weepiness or even heart-felt sobbing, for no apparent reason, when you are walking through an office full of people. Your professional self-esteem just hit the floor, but it’s not your fault – your hormones are playing tricks on you; you have an imbalance.

Whoever would have thought that hormones could play such an critical role in the body and be such a powerful molecule? They literally make or break us. This is why menopause can break us, our body is suffering withdrawal symptoms, our hormone levels are in a decline, and are no longer at optimal. Our body desperately needs those precious hormones to enable it to function correctly, as we did before we entered menopause.

Sleep

Sleep is so important to our health, without enough sleep we cannot function correctly, we become moody, angry, put on weight, are constantly fatigued, our energy levels drop, and in some case, we may even get depressed.

Without enough sleep our healing hormones cannot regenerate themselves, with insufficient sleep our hormones become imbalanced, with a hormonal imbalance we cannot sleep. How does that sound? It is a vicious cycle. It can work both ways! What we need is to regain balance. We need to restore our body.

Feeling lousy most of the time and having to hide it is not something women want but most of the time they do, either out of embarrassment, or out of fear of being seen as less competent. Would you ever go to HR to discuss this particular problem? Of course not! You’ve just put a black mark on yourself!

Is conventional HRT (synthetic hormone replacement therapy) an option?

In one word, NO!

HRT can help with hot flushes and night sweats, but the consequences (breast cancer, strokes and blood clots) far outweigh the benefits. The WHI study which finished early, in 2002, concluded that HRT did not protect against cardiovascular disease, strokes, cognitive loss, nor did it improve mood or sexual dissatisfaction. Do you consider this an option?

Is Bioidentical Hormones Restorative Therapy an option?

In one word, YES!

When you restore your body you restore yourself and every system in the body; mind, body and soul. Bioidentical hormones are life-giving hormones with no side-effects attached. With the use of restorative medicine you can glide through the menopause and onwards, to a new lease of life. There’ll be no more need to worry about your career.

Your brain will be sharp, quick-thinking and energetic – no more foggy moments. Hot flushes will be gone…forever! Your energy, lust for life and vitality will return to youthful levels – you’ll be better than your younger colleagues; you have far more experience and your brain is mature, remember, you can have it all? There’ll be no more crying or mood swings at inappropriate times – your professional-esteem will pick itself up off the floor. And you will sleep, blissful sleep.

And as an added bonus, you will lose weight and be able to keep it off.

A hormonal imbalance affects your everyday life and your career – it doesn’t have to. Restore your body! There is your answer. Don’t just take my word for it. Read up on the importance of your hormones here.

What to expect from perimenopause

  • What to expect from the perimenopause

    Perimenopause - What to Expect

What to expect from perimenopause but more importantly, what you DO NOT have to accept about it!

Menopause is a difficult stage for almost all women, things don’t just take a ‘pause’ they change. The way I look at it is, menopause is the ‘change’ but perimenopause is the ‘pause’. ‘Pause’ because in perimenopause female hormones drop drastically, so the body then has to take a pause to try and adjust itself to these lower or declining levels of hormones. This, for instance, is why we get hot flushes. Hot flushes only last as long as it takes for the body to adapt to these changes in hormone levels. Once the body adapts itself, it begins to change, it has to change, as it no longer has sufficient fuel (hormones) needed to stay healthy, strong and vital, and the person you once were. In fact, this is when we begin our descent into ageing and its related illnesses – hormones protect us.

It is not always easy to tell if you are experiencing perimenopause, and in fact, some women believe it to be impossible, convincing themselves they are too young. I understand totally, but the sooner you listen to your body the better. So many women live with and suffer from symptoms of perimenopause for years, some for as long as 15, before they seek the correct treatment. Perimenopause can begin about 10 to 5 years before menopause, so you could start noticing symptoms as early as your late 30’s, which can greatly disrupt your life, both at work and at play.

You wake up one morning with a feeling of despair, but don’t know why. You are moody, irritable, and you definitely do not feel as good as you used to – your energy levels have dropped, your positive thinking is hovering on the negative side, and sex drive, it just faded away without you realising (but perhaps your husband or partner did!). Your beloved family are stepping around you carefully so as not to crush the eggshells. You’re tired all the time but just don’t seem to be able to get enough sleep; in fact, you can’t sleep. You gain weight, something you never had to deal with before. You ate like a horse at one time with no problem. But not now. And it seems like you are living in a constant state of PMS, and that’s not far from the truth. Your hormones are playing tricks, you have an imbalance, just like before a period, but only this time they are not going to get any better. Welcome, benvenute, bienvenida, bienvenue, willkommen to my world, to perimenopause, to menopause. It happens to every woman, and is apparently, something that cannot be avoided.

But the wonderful thing now is, we no longer have to face these life-disrupting events. We don’t have to take the menopause lying down, have no energy, face depression, fade away into the background, or be left with a feeling of hopelessness, of where to go, and how to resolve it. Neither do we have to face all the age-related diseases that go with it. We have restorative medicine! When you restore your hormones, you restore your health, your life, you restore you, and you obtain longevity. It’s as simple as that!

To your health!

 

The emotional side of menopause

Don’t let the perimenopause take your edge!

I often hear from women saying that they feel anxious, sad, depressed, or that they have lost something deep down inside, something emotional, something almost heart-rending; is it that they have lost themselves? Perhaps they have lost their positive outlook on life, sharp-thinking, memory, focus, sex drive. Perhaps they feel they can’t cope as well as they once did, or maybe it’s that inevitable happening of gradually blending into the background and becoming invisible, that has such an impact on their lives.

I’ve been there, I felt it. Initially I didn’t accept it – that I was going through perimenopause, that it was happening to me too – ‘impossible’ was the word that was imprinted on my brain! I preferred to put my head in the sand and attempted to power through it as usual, for as long as I could. The perimenopause took my edge away, it threw me into a world I did not recognise. So how did I conquer it? I started researching and educating myself on what happens to and within the body during menopause and the significance of hormones during that phase, and the huge impact they have on a women’s emotions and physical health, as they decline.

According to the mainstream media, menopause is all about those hot flushes, otherwise known as flashes, that rise to an all time high just when you don’t want them to. However, it’s also very common for women to feel irritable, anxious, tense and utterly exhausted long before hot flushes take over their body. If you are in your late 30s, or early 40s or 50s and experiencing any of the following, it’s not you, it’s your hormones! You have an imbalance.

A decline in female hormones during perimenopause greatly affects the way we think, behave and react, and are responsible for changes in mood; whether we are happy, sad or even depressed.

1. Anxious or feeling you can’t cope

Fluctuating hormone levels in perimenopause can often have a negative effect on emotions. We all understand the effect hormonal changes have on our reproductive system, but fluctuating hormones levels also greatly effect our brain. Quite simply, a change in hormone levels influence much more than just our reproductive system, they affect the production of our mood monitoring chemicals (neurotransmitters) such as serotonin (the feel-good neurotransmitter), GABA (gamma-aminobutyric acid) and dopamine.

2. Feeling sad and tired

As well as waking up drenched in sweat you might also feel sad and tired. It’s frustrating that most of the lifestyle advice recommended to women today, experiencing these symptoms, is to get more sleep. Seems easy! When hormones are fluctuating and therefore imbalanced, it is almost impossible to sleep, when we can’t sleep hormones will never be balanced – it is a vicious cycle. Chronic insomnia is one of the most debilitating symptoms of perimenopause and puts the body under an extreme amount of stress. The fluctuation of the sex hormones oestrogens and progesterone, at this time, and the significant decline in DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) cause the stress hormone cortisol, to become dominant, which makes if very difficult for you to get a peaceful, uninterrupted sleep, as cortisol is partially in charge of sleep/wake patterns.

3. Temper tantrums

Many perimenopausal women feel they are in a never ending state of PMS (premenstrual syndrome). Once again, this is because of fluctuating hormone levels. The ovaries produce oestrogens from about the age of twelve, in perimenopause our ovaries are incapable of balancing these two female hormones and maintaining the correct ratios that are so desperately needed.  Wildly fluctuating oestrogens together with low progesterone may lead to more frequent and erratic mood swings and temper tantrums that you truly don’t understand, as well as migraines. If you are having more mood swings and can’t understand why, you may well be entering perimenopause.

4. Everyone walking round you on eggshells?

Feel like nothing makes sense anymore? One minute you are on a high, the next minute you are on a huge low that has you crying for no apparent reason – maybe someone accidentally pushed past you on the street, or said, ‘no’ instead of ‘yes’, and there you go, floods of tears. “Doesn’t make sense, never used to be like that! It’s your hormones. Your ratios are out, the two female hormones that tango together become confused. Who is leading who? Your ovaries are failing you and your hormones are abandoning you, you are suffering withdrawal symptoms.You do not have to cry anymore or expect the people around you to walk on eggshells, perimenopause can be positive event, if you restore your body and balance your hormones.

What can you do?

These emotional changes are an expected part of menopause but are something we no longer have to accept. By understanding hormonal health you can regain control of your life, and make this inevitable passage so much better. Restorative medicine is your answer. To find out more read Jill’s book, The Menopause Cure: Hormonal Health.